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Prince Harry Regrets Not Talking About Princess Diana’s Death Sooner<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

Prince Harry Regrets Not Talking About Princess Diana’s Death Sooner:-<\/strong> The tragic death of Prince Harry\u2019s mother, Princess Diana, has been publicly discussed and analyzed repeatedly since her fatal car accident occurred in 1997. Harry was just 12 years old at the time of his mother\u2019s death, and he now says that it took him a long time to cope with\u2014and even think about\u2014the loss.<\/span>
\n \u201cI\u2019d never really dealt with what had actually happened, so there was a lot of buried emotion, and for a huge part of my life, I just didn\u2019t even want to think about it,\u201d Harry, 32, says in a new ITV documentary, Prince Harry in Africa, per Us Weekly.<\/span><\/p>\n

The documentary focuses on Harry\u2019s work with Sentebale, the charity he cofounded in Lesotho with the small country\u2019s Prince Seeiso in 2006. Harry says he created Sentebale in his mother\u2019s honor to help carry on her work of fighting the stigma of HIV\/AIDS, and that his charity work helped him process his mother\u2019s death. \u201cI now view life differently from what it used to be. I used to bury my head in the sand and let everything around [me] tear [me] to pieces,\u201d he said. \u201cI was fighting the system, going, \u2018I don\u2019t want to be this person.’ My mother died when I was very, very young, and I don\u2019t want to be in this position. Now I\u2019m so energized, fired up, to be lucky enough to be in a position to make a difference.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

In July, Harry told a crowd at the mental health charity Heads Together that he wishes he had talked about his mother\u2019s death sooner. \u201cI really regret not talking ever about it,\u201d he said. \u201cFor the first 28 years of my life, I never talked about it.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Paul Coleman, Psy.D., author of Finding Peace When Your Heart Is In Pieces, tells SELF that repressing feelings after a tragedy isn\u2019t unusual, especially for a child. \u201cMost people after a tragedy have some degree of denial,\u201d he says, noting that the bigger the tragedy, the harder it is to wrap your mind around it. \u201cChildren do not have the ability to think abstractly, and they lack the perspective that age and maturity bring, so major losses are felt but not always processed effectively,\u201d he says. \u201cAdults can often use words and logic or philosophy to tame some of the more painful emotions\u2014though it may take time\u2014whereas children simply feel pain with no good ability to make sense of it. So repression may be a way to cope.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The desire to repress feelings that stem from a tragedy is ingrained in people, Simon Rego, Psy.D., chief psychologist at Montefiore Medical Center\/Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York, tells SELF. \u201cPeople instinctively lean toward the things that feel better and lean away from the things that feel threatening or uncomfortable,\u201d he says. As a result, he says people may cope with grief by not talking about the loss of a loved one, avoiding reminders of that person, or distracting themselves when particular memories come to mind\u2014and some people may turn to drugs and alcohol to try to numb those emotions. \u201cAll of these are attempts to not experience the emotions associated with the tragedy,\u201d Rego says.<\/span><\/p>\n

Coleman says it isn\u2019t necessarily a bad thing to repress feelings after a tragedy; it just depends on how long the repression lasts. \u201cDefense mechanisms are meant to be short-term coping mechanisms\u2014sort of like binding up an ankle after a sprain to dull the pain a bit\u2014but repression is not supposed to last for years,\u201d he says. However, he adds, that can and does happen and can cause issues for a person down the road when anything triggers those feelings of loss. For example, a person who lost a parent at an early age and repressed the emotions may struggle more than the average person to cope with a failed relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

Repressing emotions for a long period of time can also make it difficult for people to process what happened. \u201cThe emotions then tend to live on so that any time we try to think about whoever it was or the memories are cued, the emotions come flooding back in intensity as if it just happened,\u201d Rego says. \u201cAvoidance in the short-term might make you feel better, but in the long term the emotions linger\u2014they never get processed.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Rego says it\u2019s \u201cperfectly normal\u201d for people to go through emotions like sadness, guilt, nervousness, stress, and anger immediately after a loss. \u201cThat’s the body and brain trying to make sense of it the best it can,\u201d he says. \u201cJust accept that whatever you\u2019re feeling in the short-term is OK.\u201d People who are able to move on, however, are typically those who talk about it with friends and family and strive to restore a sense of normalcy as soon as they feel comfortable.<\/span><\/p>\n

Rego notes that time is a big factor. \u201cEven diagnostically, we allow space for normal bereavement,\u201d he says. \u201cWhat can look like depression can be a perfectly normal grieving reaction. It only becomes disordered when you can\u2019t do the things you normally would do.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

But some people really struggle to move on after a period of time following loss, with feelings of desperation, high levels of stress, and even feelings that life isn\u2019t worth living. When that happens, Rego says it\u2019s a good idea to seek help from a mental help professional for an evaluation.<\/span><\/div>\n

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